A Hebrew proverb states:
Counsel in the heart of man is like deep water; but a man of understanding will draw it out.
When you look into a pool of deep water, you can see the shift from clear to shadowy to pitch black. The deeper it is, the less you can discern what lies in the depths below. There could be an incredible ecosystem that is unobservable from the surface. There could be great beauty. However, unless you take time to dive into that expanse, it will remain a mystery.
Consider this in the context of your life. The people around you have numerous thoughts, ideas and insights. Adopting a mindset of seeking to understand will help you pull the counsel of others to the surface.
This will aid you when collaborating with others to find solutions to practical problems and when resolving relational issues. You will also be fulfilling a need within others to be understood which will strengthen your relationship with team members, people in your community, and those you call family.
Drawing Ideas Out From Others
When you are listening to what someone is sharing and provide questions that allow the person speaking to fully explain their idea, you help create a synergistic environment. You are the diver who goes into murky waters, finds something valuable and then drags it up to the surface where it can be understood and shared with others. If you choose to do so, you may be surprised with what you find.
Consider a different scenario. How often do you come to others thinking you know their motivations, thoughts and feelings? Maybe it’s because they did something or made a decision that you didn’t like. Oftentimes, this will backfire and not result in a positive resolution of the issue.
In WinShape Teams experiences, we teach that a servant leader is compelled by an unshakeable desire to enrich the lives of others. What does a servant leader look like when he or she is compelled by the unshakeable desire to seek to understand others?